My Path to Divorce Coaching

I didn’t set out to become a divorce coach, but looking back, I realize my passion for problem-solving and helping others guided me to this promising and rewarding profession.

As a lawyer, I enjoy the intellectual challenge of untangling complex legal issues involving families, real estate, and small businesses.   I find satisfaction relating to everyday problems, advocating for my clients and guiding them through challenging situations.  As my kids have grown and my career as a small town attorney has evolved, I noticed that legal expertise wasn’t enough. My clients needed more than just knowledgeable legal advice – they needed support and guidance to rebuild their lives after divorce, disputes, litigation and trouble.

This evolution rekindled an interest I  had as a communications major at Cornell University, and I met a local divorce coach who suggested I become certified.   I started researching the field and discovered my legal background coupled with coaching techniques could truly help people transition through divorce and other conflicts in a more organized and healthy way. A few key experiences solidified my decision to pursue this new career path:

Empathy for Clients’ Suffering

Seeing first-hand the emotional toll that conflict brings to everyday life, especially divorce, made me want to do more to ease clients’ pain. I hated seeing them devastated and overwhelmed. Though I could provide legal help, I knew they needed more support. This motivated me to learn coaching skills focused on finding less conflict, healing and growth after divorce.

Love of Problem-Solving 

I’ve always enjoyed analyzing problems and creating solutions. Divorce presents a host of complex financial, emotional, and logistical issues to work through. As a coach, I get to blend my problem-solving abilities with an understanding of communication to help clients overcome divorce challenges in an organized, thoughtful manner.

Desire to Make a Difference

Being an effective advocate as a lawyer showed me how good it feels to truly make a difference in clients’ lives. As a divorce coach, I can support people in a broader way – helping them rediscover self-confidence, manage difficult emotions, co-parent effectively, and craft fulfilling post-divorce lives. I want to empower individuals to thrive after divorce.

Passion for Personal Growth

Part of my coaching approach involves fostering clients’ personal growth. I believe divorce, though painful, presents opportunities to learn and become stronger. As a naturally critical person, I have used this opportunity to focus on optimism and have used the extensive divorce coach training to seeks out my own growth experiences.   I’m eager to inspire that journey of self-discovery in others.

Belief in Holistic Support

Divorce takes a toll on every aspect of life – financial, emotional, physical, parental, social. As a lawyer, I could only advise on limited legal matters. As a coach, I can take a big picture view and provide holistic support on all divorce-related issues. My multifaceted coaching and ability to refocus the issues at hand enables real transformation.

Commitment to Collaboration

I never tell clients what to do – I collaborate with them to set goals and find solutions. The coaching relationship is a thinking partnership, with me guiding the process and empowering clients to define their optimal paths forward after divorce. My commitment to teamwork makes coaching a fulfilling career.

Ultimately, the desire to bring more of my true self – my problem-solving skills, compassion for others, love of growth – to positively impact clients’ lives led me to divorce coaching. Now I have the privilege of blending my professional expertise with my personal values to help individuals rediscover hope after divorce. Supporting that transformative journey is what motivates me every day in this rewarding career.