What is a Divorce Coach?

Divorce is an extremely stressful and life-altering event.  According to the renowned Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale, divorce ranks as the second highest stressor an individual can face, trailing only the death of a loved one. With divorce rates rising, countless people grapple with this turbulent transition each year. Navigating the complex legal, financial, emotional and logistical dimensions of divorce can feel overwhelming without adequate support. This is where a divorce coach can prove invaluable.

The American Bar Association defines divorce coaching as a flexible, goal-oriented dispute resolution process. It is designed to support, motivate and guide individuals undergoing divorce to make the best possible decisions for their future based on their unique interests, needs and concerns. A divorce coach empowers clients to take ownership of the process and outcomes during a time when they may feel powerless. They provide structure, perspective and accountability needed to stay focused on constructive objectives versus reactive choices.

Personal divorce coaching, such as the services offered through CleanSweepDivorce.com fills a critical gap by seeking a practical resolution with individual clients, not both spouses.   The roll-up-your-sleeves style of support a divorce coach provides differs from a therapist, mediator or attorney, yet complements their services because they help you assess your priorities, develop effective strategies, and advocate for yourself during this major transition.

Divorce coaches have diverse professional backgrounds, from financial planning and mental health to law and mediation.  All quality coaches have experience dealing with the multifaceted issues facing divorcing clients. They understand the emotional turbulence clients experience and help them remain calm and rational to achieve the best outcome.  Objective guidance from a knowledgeable professional can facilitate discussions between couples and attorneys to help minimize conflict and costs.  We encourage you to take the high road to find and protect your own wellbeing so that you will minimize the negative impacts on children and other family members.

We coach you by actively asking guided questions to clarify your priorities and provide perspective to avoid reactive decisions based on intense emotions.  We can often refer you to trusted specialists like attorneys, therapists, and financial advisors to meet your specific needs, implement plans, meet deadlines, reduce anxiety and gain confidence in handling this immense challenge. 

Divorce coaching aims to transform the perception of divorce from a solely adversarial process to an opportunity for growth and positive change. With proper guidance and support, you gain strength, resilience and important life skills during the struggle.   We strive to make you feel proud of how you  conducted yourself gaining clarity and conviction. In part, we also play the role of educator or information provider helping you to understand the process and anticipate the unexpected pitfalls by being prepared mentally, physically, and spiritually.  We aim to be your thinking partner and champion reminding you about who you are as your best self, best parent, best partner, and best client.  Your values, your vision and your future.